When people hear my tale about how I am one among many digital nomads who really can work and travel anywhere around the globe, they nearly always tell me that they, too, would like to pack their belongings and become digital nomads. They would even be accurate by imagining relaxing under a canopy on Thailandâs pristine white sandy beach.
I nodded and gently promoted the idea, carefully answering their questions about how I became a digital nomad and supported it for years. But recently, Iâve started to question how we talk about digital nomads. And itâs time for me to share my own experiences of digital nomads. There are millions of articles on Google on becoming a digital nomad.
However, many of these pieces refuse to acknowledge the inauthentic, fake, rainbow image and fetishization of digital nomads (and their travels in general). Some of us scream at GoPro cameras and jump from waterfalls, believing that we are breaking the rules. But look closely: we digital nomads are the new hipsters.
The digital nomadic lifestyle is another counterculture that has entered the mainstream. We think weâve figured it out. That we have violated all norms and âhacked existence,â but in fact, we have become a culture striving for novelty, on the verge of turning our way of life into a commodity. Take Remote Year, for example. You can pay to be a digital nomad for a year like you are on vacation.
Iâve since put a stop to my roaming existence, but when others catch wind of what I do, they typically want to âpick my brainâ (shudder) on how they may make money while going to all the exotic countries on their bucket list.
Every time, I provide this often-disappointing advice: âWell, it depends.â
Save the follow-your-dreams nonsense for a Disney film script. Because the question âhow do I become a digital nomad?â isnât the proper one.
The right question is: Do my current personal circumstances coincide with everything necessary to be a digital nomad?
To put it another way, are youâŠ
Iâm in a unique situation because, regardless of what a Facebook ad or a course claims, not everyone can accomplish this.
The transition to a professional life on the road was not something I did on the spur of the moment. It wasnât some audacious act of defiance. It had been meticulously plotted as if I were planning the first 15 moves of a chess game. However, the decision was made significantly simpler because my professional and personal circumstances were ideal.
Professionally, Iâd been writing for almost a decade, teaching people how to accomplish what I do through guest posting and honing my business skills. I had worked hard to establish the correct contacts and reputation, which gave me opportunities for consistent income. At home, I didnât have a family of my own to look after, had paid off all of my debts, and accumulated enough savings to keep me comfortable in the short term. I also made sure I didnât hurt anyoneâs feelings by breaking up with them or cutting them off from each other.
I was free to go anytime I wanted without having to worry about returning to the otherwise burning ruins of a previous life that I might have ignored. I tell you this because, as you can guess, the measures I outlined are a long cry from the words of those pessimistic gunslingers who proclaim, âItâll all work out in the end.â Simply pursue your ambitions!â
The importance of pragmatism cannot be overstated. After all, a lifestyle is something you can enjoy and maintain. Screaming #YOLO and purchasing a one-way ticket to Amsterdam to escape the reality of your current circumstance are not examples of this.
Iâve seen several young, fit digital nomads set out with high hopes, only to burn out and come home disillusioned, emotionally drained, and (in some cases) in dire financial straits. Hereâs a story about someone who started strong but ended up packing it in:
These folks believe that being a digital nomad is a brave decision that will help them leave their previous life and issues. On the other hand, returning home serves as a stark reminder that wherever you go, there you are.
The stakes are significant, and you must consider this option more carefully than âeff it, itâll work!â
Smart, sustained digital nomadism (this is a thing now) isnât impossible in our online age. But if you want to establish a business, surprise â being a digital nomad with a sustainable business means you still have to nail down the unsexy essentials of creating a business daily. However, when youâre continuously on the go as a nomad, starting a business becomes more complicated since your discipline and attention are continually distracted â hey, look at that lovely waterfall! Doing your taxes while relaxing on the beach is still doing your taxes.
If you donât already operate your own internet business or have regular clients, companies like Remote.co, Upwork, and Fiverr are expressly designed to help you discover freelance work that will pay you while youâre in â anywhere.
However, there is a catch.
Many of these occupations donât pay much for the time you put into them â not enough to sustain a luxury wandering existence. This might lead to a new, simply larger hamster cycle, with you going from unpaid gig to underpaid gig indefinitely.
But before you realize it, youâre too busy to enjoy the views and too far away to quickly create a professional network.
So, unless you become very good at what you do and get a lot of high-paying, long-term clients, random jobs here and there may not make you as much money as you want or need. Even if youâre good at budgeting and live in a low-cost location, the stress of always trying to make ends meet may wear on you psychologically and emotionally, resulting in burnout and perhaps having you trapped in situations.
A few unsaid realities of digital nomadism exist. One of them is that humans are not supposed to be nomadic. Itâs not good for you mentally.
Sure, going with the wind might feel like a cheap roller coaster delight on an eternal loop at first.
Until you realize you need to come down from the high and feel normal again.
Some of my friends used to grumble to me about the monotony of their everyday lives, and Iâd nod in agreement. But, after repeatedly having to rebuild my days and weeks in each new place, I found myself envious of their routines. Itâs strange how you donât appreciate the importance of having a way until you donât have one. Every choice and inquiry, even routine ones like where to acquire my groceries or a coffee shop had Wi-Fi, threw a knot in my day.
I missed and wanted the routine of working out at the same gym or getting coffee at the same coffee shop where everyone knew my name⊠and the sensation of having a fixed location where I could call home.
My never-ending cycle of erecting and demolishing my temporary house was not home. Because just as I was getting used to my surroundings, Iâd have to pack up and start anew. It threw off my sense of where I was. And it was exhausting, as these other digital nomads can attest:
The fact is that being a nomad does not free you from your responsibilities. Itâs still your life, except itâs now in nation X., And any difficulties or baggage you have will remain (or, in some cases, appear in new and unanticipated ways!).
Most individuals donât grasp the concept of living off the grid. In some ways, itâs just easier to declare âyes, Iâm an accountant!â while your dinner companion nods and pokes at their salad.
My adaptability enables me to travel worldwide to make new acquaintances, rekindle old ones, and reunite with long-lost family members (mainly in part due to the many essential apps that help you work from anywhere). That is extremely lovely! Until⊠I have to go. It was so emotionally draining to leave people over and over again, like a slow and constant eroding of your grasp on connections, but nowadays Iâve adopted the thinking of âItâs not âgoodbye.’â âItâsâsee you later,’â she says.
Going to places with a built-in community is lovely if you can pull it off. Or, even better, invite and plan with friends and have everyone meet you at a specific location. For example, over the Thanksgiving holiday, I spent time in Costa Rica with a group of friends, most of whom were entrepreneurs (but of course). It was great to see so many familiar and new faces, even short. There were more than 30 of us.
In some ways, becoming a digital nomad has become a capitalistic demand. Copywriters advise you to âscrew the 9 to 5 lifeâ and âfollow your passion.â
The message is simple: youâre a sucker for being âtrappedâ in a full-time job that forces you to compete in the rat race. But hereâs the catch: becoming a digital nomad turns out to be its type of rat race. To put it another way, how many of us digital nomads are capable of outdoing one another in terms of novelty?
Who has the most nations in which they may go and live?
Who can amass the most significant social media following by bragging about all the amazing stuff weâve been up to?
Who can travel to the most isolated location (with internet access) and behave like the most untethered, Iâve-got-it-all-figured-out lone wolf?
Travel is said to be a tremendous form of personal growth. So far, most of us digital nomads have also distorted the benefits of traveling to new countries, cultures, and people and turned the lessons weâve learned while on the road into shallow, surface-level material for YouTube and Instagram videos.
Initially, I believed I was doing this digital nomad thing for the sake of travel, worldwide exploration, and self-discovery. But as I traveled from one location to the next, I realized I had been traveling for the wrong reasons. I was no longer interested in touring for the sake of⊠traveling. To my surprise, I was getting high from seeking novelty. I had gone down a false path where the only way for me to feel like I was doing something important was to travel to the next place that would make people say things like, âWow, youâre so lucky to be there!â
Yes, I was, but please tell me more to feel validated. (Of course, that may be just me.)
For me, it took a long time to figure out that the raw traveling and nomadic experience is a slow, painful process of blowing yourself apart when you first arrive at a new place and then putting yourself back together one frustrating, complex, or incredible experience at a time.
Both the highs and lows of being a digital nomad were well worth it.
But thereâs one thing I want you to know: most digital nomads donât have life figured out any more than anyone else who pretends to have life figured out.